Me??.... The Frustrated Parent??!!!!

Ok, I need to vent. I have about had enough of dentists. No, I do not like them at all!!! I hate sitting in the dentists chair and getting tortured. But guess what, my daughter hates it more. This is where the story begins.......
My sweet angel daughter, my well behaved, well rounded child, absolutely hates the thought of going to the dentist. Who can blame her??? We have struggled with this since her first visit to the "merry" place. We have a child that is really happy when things go her way, but can change her toon really fast when they dont go her way. Particularly in the dentists office. We have been able to reason with her on about every other major issue that has come our way. You know, sharing with friends, studying after school, no hitting, etc, etc. Well, she can turn into a totally different child right about the time a dentist needs to place a tool in her mouth. She will not listen to reason at all. (Her thinking is.....Of Course I wont, they are about to "hurt" me. Who in their right mind would just sit still and take it.) So, we definately have had major issues with this.
We started with going to a family dentist. Just to look in her mouth. Not bad, except that she gags when someone puts anything weird in her mouth. Ok, that didn't work. X-rays were even worse. So, the family dentist gladly recommends we go to a pediatric dentist. How exciting. She now gets to watch a cartoon while they put tools in her mouth. Does that make a difference??? No. So, we will try to give her a pill to sedate her a bit. Does that help??? Well, she did get some fillings, she did get work done, I thought that was awesome, but she still threw up. O0ps. So, they gladly recommended that she see a different pediatric dentist.
So, off we go after going through about 4 dentists in our area, we finally had to go to a different state for more options. Maybe they had better pediatric dentists????
So, we go to our new dentist. Same stuff, but, she actually let them put tools in her mouth. She actually let them pull 2 teeth. She actually got some fillings. We actually re scheduled more work and she walked to the office with me, no fuss. I was so happy!!! Yeah, we have found a match. Well, unfortunately, they also ended up telling me today that she is just too much work for them. Oh my gosh, these guys are sopposed to be PEDIATRIC dentists, people. I thought they dealt with these issues all the time. Obviously, I guess I am wrong. Could it be me that they have a problem with?? I know I have heard of other kids not loving the dentist also. This can't be a new issue for them. So, Anyway, we paid for her sealant, and went on our unhappy way. I guess we will be good for another 6 months, then our cleaning will be due and we will be looking for another dentist. Fun, Fun.

Dont you just love kids!!!

As many of you know, I have a 7 year old daughter. I just love her to death of course. She is the delight of my life. Anyway, we are having "boyfriend" issues at school. (ALREADY??!!). I guess kids are just trying to grow up too fast these days. She was telling me one day that some parents of a girl and boy at school had to meet with the principal because the boy and girl were caught kissing at recess. These kids are 7 years old also. Oh my gosh, when I was that age that thought probably never crossed my mind!!! Anyway, my daughter and I had a long conversation about it and it ended something like this....." You know, if the principal called our house and said that you were at school kissing a boy, your dad would be sooooooooo mad. He would totally freak." Anyway, she said " I know. " and the conversation was over. We have talked about the boyfriend subject and basically said she is too young to have one. She doesnt need to be thinking of that already!!!?? OK, I know that at that age a "Boyfriend" means you say you have a crush on each other and basically stay 20 feet away from each other because you are too shy........(I think, atleast that was how it was when I was her age.) So, we still just told her she was too young to think about that stuff. Done. (Or so I thought. )
So, I was cleaning out her craft area and throwing out papers that were garbage when I ran across a folded note. Of course I had to read it. It read " Colton, I am going to have to think about the boyfriend thing for three to four days. Love, ( yours truly.)
Oh my gosh. I laughed so hard. I thought her first response to a question like that would be something like.. " My dad would kill me." But no, she has to think about it. So, I thought about it too. After I thought about it, I decided that wasn't a bad decision. She wasnt saying yes, she wasnt saying no, my daughter had to take some time to think about the question that was proposed to her. And, not just for a couple of minutes, but a couple of days. What an awesome thought!!!! So, I talked to her about it later, and I told her I came across the note, and I asked her what became of it. She told me, "I decided I didn't want to be his girlfriend and I told him no. "
I am so proud of her. She is stopping and thinking about things and making her mind up on her own, just like we hope she would. Not many 7 year olds I know would do that. Actually, not many 30 year olds do that. Its usually a yes, or a no. Plain and simple. No waiting around to decide. So anyway, I think we may be doing some things right. We will keep plugging away at it.