Me??.... The Frustrated Parent??!!!!

Ok, I need to vent. I have about had enough of dentists. No, I do not like them at all!!! I hate sitting in the dentists chair and getting tortured. But guess what, my daughter hates it more. This is where the story begins.......
My sweet angel daughter, my well behaved, well rounded child, absolutely hates the thought of going to the dentist. Who can blame her??? We have struggled with this since her first visit to the "merry" place. We have a child that is really happy when things go her way, but can change her toon really fast when they dont go her way. Particularly in the dentists office. We have been able to reason with her on about every other major issue that has come our way. You know, sharing with friends, studying after school, no hitting, etc, etc. Well, she can turn into a totally different child right about the time a dentist needs to place a tool in her mouth. She will not listen to reason at all. (Her thinking is.....Of Course I wont, they are about to "hurt" me. Who in their right mind would just sit still and take it.) So, we definately have had major issues with this.
We started with going to a family dentist. Just to look in her mouth. Not bad, except that she gags when someone puts anything weird in her mouth. Ok, that didn't work. X-rays were even worse. So, the family dentist gladly recommends we go to a pediatric dentist. How exciting. She now gets to watch a cartoon while they put tools in her mouth. Does that make a difference??? No. So, we will try to give her a pill to sedate her a bit. Does that help??? Well, she did get some fillings, she did get work done, I thought that was awesome, but she still threw up. O0ps. So, they gladly recommended that she see a different pediatric dentist.
So, off we go after going through about 4 dentists in our area, we finally had to go to a different state for more options. Maybe they had better pediatric dentists????
So, we go to our new dentist. Same stuff, but, she actually let them put tools in her mouth. She actually let them pull 2 teeth. She actually got some fillings. We actually re scheduled more work and she walked to the office with me, no fuss. I was so happy!!! Yeah, we have found a match. Well, unfortunately, they also ended up telling me today that she is just too much work for them. Oh my gosh, these guys are sopposed to be PEDIATRIC dentists, people. I thought they dealt with these issues all the time. Obviously, I guess I am wrong. Could it be me that they have a problem with?? I know I have heard of other kids not loving the dentist also. This can't be a new issue for them. So, Anyway, we paid for her sealant, and went on our unhappy way. I guess we will be good for another 6 months, then our cleaning will be due and we will be looking for another dentist. Fun, Fun.

Dont you just love kids!!!

As many of you know, I have a 7 year old daughter. I just love her to death of course. She is the delight of my life. Anyway, we are having "boyfriend" issues at school. (ALREADY??!!). I guess kids are just trying to grow up too fast these days. She was telling me one day that some parents of a girl and boy at school had to meet with the principal because the boy and girl were caught kissing at recess. These kids are 7 years old also. Oh my gosh, when I was that age that thought probably never crossed my mind!!! Anyway, my daughter and I had a long conversation about it and it ended something like this....." You know, if the principal called our house and said that you were at school kissing a boy, your dad would be sooooooooo mad. He would totally freak." Anyway, she said " I know. " and the conversation was over. We have talked about the boyfriend subject and basically said she is too young to have one. She doesnt need to be thinking of that already!!!?? OK, I know that at that age a "Boyfriend" means you say you have a crush on each other and basically stay 20 feet away from each other because you are too shy........(I think, atleast that was how it was when I was her age.) So, we still just told her she was too young to think about that stuff. Done. (Or so I thought. )
So, I was cleaning out her craft area and throwing out papers that were garbage when I ran across a folded note. Of course I had to read it. It read " Colton, I am going to have to think about the boyfriend thing for three to four days. Love, ( yours truly.)
Oh my gosh. I laughed so hard. I thought her first response to a question like that would be something like.. " My dad would kill me." But no, she has to think about it. So, I thought about it too. After I thought about it, I decided that wasn't a bad decision. She wasnt saying yes, she wasnt saying no, my daughter had to take some time to think about the question that was proposed to her. And, not just for a couple of minutes, but a couple of days. What an awesome thought!!!! So, I talked to her about it later, and I told her I came across the note, and I asked her what became of it. She told me, "I decided I didn't want to be his girlfriend and I told him no. "
I am so proud of her. She is stopping and thinking about things and making her mind up on her own, just like we hope she would. Not many 7 year olds I know would do that. Actually, not many 30 year olds do that. Its usually a yes, or a no. Plain and simple. No waiting around to decide. So anyway, I think we may be doing some things right. We will keep plugging away at it.

I am such a crybaby!!!!

Oh my goodness, just when I thought I was done crying for the day I opened my friends blog to read it!!!! Well, then I realized I was mentioned in her blog. She doesn't know that I have sooooo been thinking the same things.
Lynsey, my friend, my closest thing to a sister, my example. She will never know how much her presence in my childhood and life has meant to me. We have been far apart by miles for about 10 years now, unfortunately. But, she has always been very close to me in my mind and heart!
We had very close families and our parents were best friends, but these things were not the reasons for us being close. The reason was because of who she is. Who couldn't help but love her.
Thank you for thinking of me, thank you for not letting the distance matter. You are a true friend and as far as I am concerned, my family. I am so proud of who you are and who you have become. I never ever thought that you were a "Pain in my ass." (As quoted by you) I hope you know that. I also hope you know that those were the good days for me as well. I will remember them and smile forever. I wish we could be back in that porch swing right now!!! Thank you for being you!
Love, Kelli

I Love Snow!!!!

I am one of the people that never wants winter to end!!!! I love the way snow makes everything look so clean!! I love the way you can look out the window and see huge flakes falling slowly to the ground. It just doesn't get any better than that for me!!!! Now, my husband has a different opinion. He looks out at the snow and in his mind it means WORK. He needs to shovel before he can leave in the morning for work. This just takes all of the beauty out of it for him. He has to shovel when he comes home from a 12 hour hectic day at the office. My daughter and I on the other hand, love to "shovel". ( See her in picture above.) Maybe it has alot to do with us not having much else to do. I dont know?? But we have fun while we slowly make a clear path down the driveway and up the sidewalk. It is such a bummer winter is over. I cant wait till next year already!!!!

NEIKO

Oh my gosh, Isn't my puppy cute. He is almost a year old and is sooooo fun. I thought I didnt like dogs until he came into our life. Isn't it funny how things like that happen!!!! He is so silly, I swear if dogs could have obsessive compulsive disorder, he does. He does not eat at all when we are gone. So, hopefully we are never gone for long. When we get home he just chows down!!! It is so funny. He is only about 7 pounds and that is about all he will be, especially if we are gone much!!!!lol. Anyway, I really just wanted to find an excuse to post this picture. Enjoy!!!

Don't wait till tomorrow!!!

I recently found out one of my close relatives has cancer. Acute M. Leukemia, actually. He lives in California so he is in treatment down there. My dad and I flew down there to see him and keep him company while he was getting chemo in the hospital. He was sopposed to get out 4 weeks later. It turns out it was worse than the doctors once thought, and he didnt get to go home. He is now in critical condition in the ICU and is dealing with the major effects of late stage bone marrow cancer. Congenitive heart failure, seizures, pain, sores, almost death. At first they thought they found it at the beginning stages. Now they know they didnt. I guess it is just a waiting game now. We just wait to see what will happen next. Will his heart stop again? Will he live another week? Will he live another day?? Those questions just wont get answered until they happen. My dad flew back down there for the third time in a month. My dad puts his life on hold so that he can be with his brother for as long as he can until the worst happens. He would put his life on hold forever if it could change the fate of his brother.
What are you supposed to do when you know someone is dying. I guess all you can do is just be with them. What will help them not be so scared?? What will help them when you know the only thing that will really help is if everything could just be ok. But its not.
I just wanted to put my thoughts down and let people know that each day could be the end. Every day could really be our last. I guess it really doesnt become real to us until someone we know and love is dying or has died. Tell your loved ones you love them. Take a day off work and visit your family. Travel across the town, or county, or state or whatever is in between you and your loved one and be with them. Let them know you love them. Let them know they matter. Let them know they are important to you and they are worth your time. I just know that in one day it can be all over. Then we will all wish we had stayed for one last cup of coffee or one last story or one more night. God if I could turn back time. We would still be around the camp fire laughing, talking, planning, loving and everything else we did best as a family. Next year there is a chance he wont be there, and it just wont be the same. I hope that he knows how much I love him and how much he matters. He is the kindest man I know. I love him and pray for him.........
Kel

Wow!!!! I'm Blogging

No better time than March Maddness to start my new blog!!!
Although, my time to spend blogging will be very limited for the next couple of weeks as I will be watching the hoops!!! Hopefully my team will be awesome and make it further than last year!!! That is a must!!!! GO ZAGS!!!!!